{"id":14479,"date":"2025-08-18T14:05:09","date_gmt":"2025-08-18T19:05:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.joycekubik.com\/welcome\/?p=14479"},"modified":"2025-08-19T15:25:41","modified_gmt":"2025-08-19T20:25:41","slug":"eighty-five-and-dumb-birds","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.joycekubik.com\/welcome\/eighty-five-and-dumb-birds\/","title":{"rendered":"85 and Dumb Birds"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;3px|0px|54px|0px||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.25.1&#8243; background_enable_image=&#8221;off&#8221; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width=&#8221;1066px&#8221; max_width_tablet=&#8221;1066px&#8221; max_width_phone=&#8221;1389px&#8221; max_width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; min_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; min_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; min_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; max_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; max_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; custom_padding=&#8221;0|0px|21px|0px||&#8221; background_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; module_alignment_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; module_alignment_phone=&#8221;&#8221; module_alignment_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; collapsed=&#8221;off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;https:\/\/www.joycekubik.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/cartoon_chicken_notxt-C.jpg&#8221; title_text=&#8221;cartoon_chicken_notxt- C&#8221; show_bottom_space_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; show_bottom_space_phone=&#8221;&#8221; show_bottom_space_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; align_tablet=&#8221;center&#8221; align_phone=&#8221;center&#8221; align_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Image | Dumb Bird&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.25.1&#8243; _module_preset=&#8221;default&#8221; width=&#8221;70%&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;70%&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;70%&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; max_width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; max_width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; module_alignment=&#8221;center&#8221; min_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; min_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; min_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; max_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; max_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;||-6vh||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; module_alignment_tablet=&#8221;center&#8221; module_alignment_phone=&#8221;center&#8221; module_alignment_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text content_tablet=&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22><em>\u201c<span lang=%22en-US%22>Embrace who you are and your divine purpose.\u201d <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22><span lang=%22en-US%22>\u2014 Germany Kent<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>I think this picture speaks loud and clear<\/strong> for many of us. My friend Kay, who also has ADHD, and I were in Colorado on our way to\u2026 so many places. We gathered everything we could think of for our full day of sightseeing. Then we got in the car &#8211; for the second time . . . no, wait! It was the third time! <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>Can you guess what happened?<\/strong> Yep! We forgot about 4 things. Back inside she went to gather a few more things we forgot. I don\u2019t know about you, but I\u2019ve learned to hate the phrase \u201cdid you forget anything?\u201d In my mind I would say, Of course I did &#8211; but what is it? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>It seemed that every day as I was leaving<\/strong> for work, I\u2019d have to go back into the house to gather a few things I forgot. It was frustrating and at times humiliating. Some people think it\u2019s fun to see you go back and forth two and three times to get everything you need. I can honestly say it was never fun for me to repeatedly forget basic things such as keys, my purse or work related items. But I\u2019d laugh with them as I went back inside to gather what I needed. Internally, I\u2019d berate myself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>But notice the smile on Kay\u2019s face \u2014<\/strong>  that\u2019s called \u201cEmbracing It.\u201d Rather than berate ourselves internally or make excuses, people with ADHD need to embrace it. This is how we are and it\u2019s important to not look at it as a failure, but to look at it as \u201cI simply have to go back and get what I needed.\u201d If anyone forgets something, what do they do? They go back and get it. It doesn\u2019t really matter how many times or the fact that others don\u2019t do it as often as we do. Embrace it!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>You need to think about the perception<\/strong> you give others. Is it possible those with ADHD are verbalizing their frustration to everyone that \u201cI\u2019m so tired of forgetting things\u201d \u2014 and then act exasperated. Isn\u2019t this the same as walking late into a business meeting and calling ourselves out by saying, \u201cSorry, I\u2019m late again.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>There are things many of us with ADHD<\/strong> just don\u2019t have great control over. But you can help gain better control by making a daily check list. I use icons to create a checklist to view each day before I leave the house, such as \ud83d\udd11\ud83d\udcb2\ud83e\udd13\ud83d\udcf1\ud83d\ude37\u231a\ufe0e\ud83e\udde2\ud83d\udcc2. The last one is a folder to remind me of work related items. Then post it somewhere near the door. It gives me a sense of calm going out the door knowing I have the essentials I need. On the way to work, I\u2019m not berating myself for forgetting once again. Kids can make their own checklist for school. A list will definitely reduce your frustrations. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>Because my friend and I both have ADHD,<\/strong> we understood each other and laughing at ourselves stopped the negative thought of %22here I go again.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span lang=%22en-US%22> And, we had a great day!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>JOYCE<\/h3>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22> <em><span lang=%22en-US%22>%22Identify the barriers in your life,<br \/>and develop discipline, courage<br \/>and the strength to permanently move beyond them,<br \/>and keep moving forward.\u201d <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22><span lang=%22en-US%22>\u2014 Germany Kent<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&#8221; content_phone=&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22><em>\u201c<span lang=%22en-US%22>Embrace who you are <br \/>and your divine purpose.\u201d <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22><span lang=%22en-US%22>\u2014 Germany Kent<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>I think this picture speaks loud and clear<\/strong> for many of us. My friend Kay, who also has ADHD, and I were in Colorado on our way to\u2026 so many places. We gathered everything we could think of for our full day of sightseeing. Then we got in the car &#8211; for the second time . . . no, wait! It was the third time! <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>Can you guess what happened?<\/strong> Yep! We forgot about 4 things. Back inside she went to gather a few more things we forgot. I don\u2019t know about you, but I\u2019ve learned to hate the phrase \u201cdid you forget anything?\u201d In my mind I would say, Of course I did &#8211; but what is it? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>It seemed that every day as I was leaving<\/strong> for work, I\u2019d have to go back into the house to gather a few things I forgot. It was frustrating and at times humiliating. Some people think it\u2019s fun to see you go back and forth two and three times to get everything you need. I can honestly say it was never fun for me to repeatedly forget basic things such as keys, my purse or work related items. But I\u2019d laugh with them as I went back inside to gather what I needed. Internally, I\u2019d berate myself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>But notice the smile on Kay\u2019s face \u2014<\/strong> that\u2019s called \u201cEmbracing It.\u201d Rather than berate ourselves internally or make excuses, people with ADHD need to embrace it. This is how we are and it\u2019s important to not look at it as a failure, but to look at it as \u201cI simply have to go back and get what I needed.\u201d If anyone forgets something, what do they do? They go back and get it. It doesn\u2019t really matter how many times or the fact that others don\u2019t do it as often as we do. Embrace it!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>You need to think about the perception<\/strong> you give others. Is it possible those with ADHD are verbalizing their frustration to everyone that \u201cI\u2019m so tired of forgetting things\u201d \u2014 and then act exasperated. Isn\u2019t this the same as walking late into a business meeting and calling ourselves out by saying, \u201cSorry, I\u2019m late again.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>There are things many of us with ADHD<\/strong> just don\u2019t have great control over. But you can help gain better control by making a daily check list. I use icons to create a checklist to view each day before I leave the house, such as \ud83d\udd11\ud83d\udcb2\ud83e\udd13\ud83d\udcf1\ud83d\ude37\u231a\ufe0e\ud83e\udde2\ud83d\udcc2. The last one is a folder to remind me of work related items. Then post it somewhere near the door. It gives me a sense of calm going out the door knowing I have the essentials I need. On the way to work, I\u2019m not berating myself for forgetting once again. Kids can make their own checklist for school. A list will definitely reduce your frustrations. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span lang=%22en-US%22><strong>Because my friend and I both have ADHD,<\/strong> we understood each other and laughing at ourselves stopped the negative thought of %22here I go again.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span lang=%22en-US%22> And, we had a great day!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3>JOYCE<\/h3>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22><em><span lang=%22en-US%22>%22Identify the barriers in your life,<br \/>and develop discipline, courage<br \/>and the strength to permanently move beyond them,<br \/>and keep moving forward.\u201d <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p style=%22text-align: center;%22><span lang=%22en-US%22>\u2014 Germany Kent<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p>&#8221; content_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; admin_label=&#8221;Text | 85 and Dumb Birds&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;4.25.1&#8243; text_font=&#8221;Open Sans||||||||&#8221; text_font_size=&#8221;16px&#8221; header_3_font=&#8221;Covered By Your Grace||||||||&#8221; header_3_font_size=&#8221;36px&#8221; custom_margin=&#8221;-4vh||||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;4vh||||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;4vh||||false|false&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|tablet&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; text_font_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_font_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_font_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; text_text_color_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_text_color_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_text_color_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; text_font_size_tablet=&#8221;16px&#8221; text_font_size_phone=&#8221;16px&#8221; text_font_size_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; text_letter_spacing_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_letter_spacing_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_letter_spacing_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; text_line_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_line_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_line_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_font_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_font_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_font_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_text_align_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_text_align_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_text_align_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_text_color_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_text_color_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_text_color_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_font_size_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_font_size_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_font_size_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_letter_spacing_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_letter_spacing_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_letter_spacing_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_line_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_line_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_line_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_3_font_tablet=&#8221;Covered By Your Grace||||||||&#8221; header_3_font_phone=&#8221;Covered By Your Grace||||||||&#8221; header_3_font_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_3_text_align_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_text_align_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_text_align_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_3_text_color_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_text_color_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_text_color_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_3_font_size_tablet=&#8221;30px&#8221; header_3_font_size_phone=&#8221;30px&#8221; header_3_font_size_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_3_letter_spacing_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_letter_spacing_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_letter_spacing_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; header_3_line_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_line_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; header_3_line_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; text_orientation_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; text_orientation_phone=&#8221;&#8221; text_orientation_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; background_layout_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; background_layout_phone=&#8221;&#8221; background_layout_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; inline_fonts=&#8221;Open Sans&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>&#8220;It&#8217;s best to have failure happen early in life.<\/em><br \/><em>It wakes up the Phoenix Bird in you<\/em><br \/><em>So you rise from the ashes.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\u2014 Anne Baxter<\/p>\n<p><strong><br \/>Dumb Birds deserve so much<\/strong> more respect. But just a word of warning: <span lang=\"en-US\">Caution! Don\u2019t be offended if you are 85 or a therapist. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong> Today, I was reminded<\/strong> of my eldest client who was 85 years old when I worked with her. She was a beautiful and fun lady who attended one of my ADHD small group workshops back in 2010 with four other adults in their 40s and 50s.<span lang=\"en-US\">\u00a0We started talking about the emotional side of ADHD and how best to manage it. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>Several times during our <\/strong>second and third session, she mumbled the phrase \u2018those dumb birds.\u2019 Finally, someone asked her why she used the phrase, &#8220;dumb birds&#8221; and what did it mean? Our 85-year-old friend explained that in her day therapists were referred to as \u201cdumb birds\u201d because they never seem to get it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Now that may sound a little<\/strong> harsh but taking care of mental health was not exactly an everyday conversation when she was younger; nor was ADHD even known about.<\/p>\n<p><strong>My client was born in the 1920s<\/strong>, when mental health was not a topic about which you just started talking and others simply joined in.<\/p>\n<p><strong> I\u2019m so glad it\u2019s 2025!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>My years of working with<\/strong> ADHD clients have taught me that they often need the help of a therapist to overcome their negative emotional thought processes that built up over years of living with ADHD. As an ADHD Coach, my goal is to discuss the challenges which my clients are presented with and to build the right strategies and structures using my lens of having ADHD so they can deal with them and move forward.<\/p>\n<p><strong> Whether it\u2019s an individual<\/strong> or a couple with ADHD, both therapy and ADHD Coaching may be necessary to make change in their lives. 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